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I checked to see whos around, through my crystal ball an all. I see Aisilin and Scott but their off someplace else digging up adventure and having fun so I wont bother them. Oh but whats this, theres someone in the bank, ill go see what their up to. They see me comming, suddenly stop speaking english that I hear them speaking and speak some other language, well thats fine maybe their planning something others shouldnt hear. No Hi, no nothing. Hmmm maybe I was mistaken and they cant speak english, someone else comes in, they get a hello. What freindly people, one has virtue one doesnt, but they still shouldnt treat people they dont know like their the wind. I try and say Hello or Hi or whatever to whoever I see, IF mind you, im at the computer or not nose deep in one of my bags, so please try and do the same. Its not that im angry, I just hate being ignored!

Az

Azalin4savioR wrote:I checked to see whos around, through my crystal ball an all. I see Aisilin and Scott but their off someplace else digging up adventure and having fun so I wont bother them.

They aren't friendly because they are doing something? Did you .msg them and say "Hi"?

theres someone in the bank, ill go see what their up to. They see me comming, suddenly stop speaking english that I hear them speaking and speak some other language, well thats fine maybe their planning something others shouldnt hear. No Hi, no nothing.

Did you say "Hi", "Hello" or anything to them?

It takes two to be friendly. Don't be shy!

Said hi once, then hello a second time when they were outside... what more do I need?

Azalin4savioR wrote:Said hi once, then hello a second time when they were outside... what more do I need?

Ahhh, well in that case they were either very rude or they were so preoccupied that they didn't see your greeting.

Just three words.. let it go... you did your part. If they find it common to ignore people that they do not know... so be it.

If they ignored you then, even if they do read this... you will more than likely be ignored again.

Just be satisfied in the knowledge that you have expressed your feelings. Which, as it turns out, is all you can really do. *wink*

If, as you say, I am not shoulder deep in my bags (which should be done upstairs or something so you are not the guilty party), I will always respond to you. Please let me know in a pm if I have scorned you at any time in the future.

Ahh its done, this was more like a message for some of the other new people to know it happens quite a bit, and their not alone if it happens to them.

*OFF TOPIC*

I bet its those darn cliques again! *grin* Funny how those things didn't seem to exist until someone started saying they did. Then, I began to notice them all over the place. All the time I thought it was people just doing things together and having fun and then I saw the truth! They were cliques and were keeping others out if they weren't the right type or something.

*BACK ON TOPIC*

Actually, new people are generally welcomed and greeted anywhere they go. Often people ARE busy with their noses in their bankboxes, packs or they just don't notice someone saying something. I had to say "Hello" three times to a group of three who were busy chatting before they noticed me and then welcomed me and apologized for ignoring me. I didn't feel ignored, but by the furry deities, I was going to get noticed!

im bad for that was well if im chesking auctions or sorting through my bank box i often ahve a window full of bags etc. i find a pm to me usually works cause you get the cool sound

My fellow namesake We have all been guilty a time or two of just being busy. But then again Wod is also just like everywhere else socially.
I as Aislin can walk into the bank and everyone says hi. But 2 minutes later i can walk in as Samara...and be totally ignored (most of those same people know im Samara too). Thats just the way it goes..if you ever say hi to me and i dont respond please dont take it personally there will be no preconceived plot to ignore you. < Promise>



Aislin

I dont know......I think its that friggin clique thing again!!!! LOL
And honestly I dont like being ignored either. If it hppens once no biggie, twice I begin to get frustrated, the third time will not get a fourth. Hopefully I wont be the only person ingame besides the ignorer when I hear their deathcry

Have a good night!!!!

Lord Herakles

I have heard that it helps to write up a formal introduction prior to starting so most players can understand who you are and what type of person/player you are. If you have already done that than I retract this statement. However, looking through your posts I see none of the sort. I'm not bashing, just giving some advice which you don't have to take.

Lekurion wrote:I have heard that it helps to write up a formal introduction prior to starting so most players can understand who you are and what type of person/player you are. If you have already done that than I retract this statement. However, looking through your posts I see none of the sort. I'm not bashing, just giving some advice which you don't have to take.

Lekurion, who was this post meant for?

Lord Herakles

Bayn wrote:I bet its those darn cliques again! *grin* Funny how those things didn't seem to exist until someone started saying they did. Then, I began to notice them all over the place. All the time I thought it was people just doing things together and having fun and then I saw the truth! They were cliques and were keeping others out if they weren't the right type or something.

I understand what you're saying Azalin, and it sucks that this is the way things are... but honestly hon, the sooner you realize that this IS the way things are, and give up trying to make anyone else "believe" that something like this could have every possibly happened... the better off you'll be. See, they all know this happens, but for the sake of claiming this all-fired "friendly family of friends", none of them would ever post it openly on the forums. You'll likely only be met with flames first, then be called a whiner... it's just the way it is. I cannot count the number of times, EXACTLY as you say, I have walked up to the bank where 2 people were conversing in ENGLISH, where upon seeing me, the conversation quickly moved to "Slovak", or whatever that crap is with all the squiglies amongst the letters they seem so fluent in... It does get frustrating, especially when you very well may have been popping in to invite some people on a t-map hunt, or something equally as fun...

Best advice: let it alone. It's not going to change. People's attitudes about it aren't going to change. Basically, nobody is even going to admit that it really DID happen to you, so in the end, they're either going to call you a liar, a whiner, or just flame the ever-lovin s#it outta anything you post. They don't seem to like to hear the truth, so best to just leave it alone...

Celeste Kendreyl wrote:Best advice: let it alone.

This was good advice if for the wrong reasons.

It's not going to change. People's attitudes about it aren't going to change.

How defeatist!

Basically, nobody is even going to admit that it really DID happen to you, so in the end, they're either going to call you a liar, a whiner, or just flame the ever-lovin s#it outta anything you post. They don't seem to like to hear the truth, so best to just leave it alone...

If you bothered to read the responses to the original post you'll see that no one doubted the original poster and other responses to the thread suggested different reasons why the observed behavior occurred.

Sorry, you can't start a flame war in this thread, isn't gonna work. If you need attention, flame someone on SQ.

Bayn wrote:Sorry, you can't start a flame war in this thread, isn't gonna work. If you need attention, flame someone on SQ.

Sorry, but if you had read my post, you would see that the intention wasn't the start of a flame session, but rather to offer some advice to a friend who had actually opened their eyes to the state of things... Ya'll can deny things as much as you like, that doesn't make them go away, or not exist. You can flame those who speak up for being "whiners" all you want... the things they are complaining about are still valid, and very real. Did I post in an attempt to "get attention" as you claim? Why would I? So you guys can try to proclaim your superiority once more? Yeah... I love that soooo much... Duh! No, I offered some advice to a friend that he should let what he was "speaking up" about just drop before it led to the same ridiculous accusations and "flaming" that the frequent posters here seem so fond of. If you re-read my post, you will see that it actually is calm, and rational... no ranting and raving.

Additionally, by your own words, Bayn, humans are "imperfect creatures"... and we can't all be "nicey-nice" and all that jazz... Live by your own words, my friend. Telling someone to "get lost", or "post someplace else" as you just did violates your own advice to others in matters such as these. What is good for the goose not good for the gander? If any of you felt the need to flame, it was obviously directed solely at me, and your prior mindless flame-slinging tactics in confrontations with me... regardless, my advice holds true. The replies to Azalins post were far from sympathetic- more like "Well, did you say hello? Did you do something wrong? Maybe there were just too busy to talk to you..." Nobody even touched on the language switching crap that happens so often... I guess it doesn't happen then, right? Or are we just whining now because we can't speak Lithuanianese?